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5 Ways to Love Yourself Today

Taking a moment for a cup of herbal tea on the patio. Self Love FTW.

There are infinite ways to love yourself. Starting helps.

You may get stopped by any number of beliefs. Some of the most popular ones are that self-love is selfish and that you should only be looking out for others; and if you’re an enlightenment-seeker, you may be hung up on the thought that there is “no self” and so self-love doesn’t make sense, or it’s against what you think you’ve been seeking.

I call bullshit on both of those ideas. And I call it from direct experience.

If all you’re doing is giving outwardly, there is nothing left to give, eventually. Watch out for burn-out in the form of fatigue, resentment, or depression. And if you’re seeking enlightenment, and you want to experience, directly, what we call oneness, then I’m telling you: all-inclusive self-love is a doorway.

Here are five things you can try. Try all in one day. Try one a day for five days. Try one each day a week for five weeks. Do whatever is fun for you. Start small. Go easy. Take your time with it. Little bits of self-love have exponential results if you stick with it.

  1. Look in the mirror and talk about it. Take a breath. Look yourself in the eyes. And just start laying it on: I love you. I love you so much. You’re doing great. I know you’re doing your best, and I can see it. I love you so much, exactly as you are. I see your puffy eyes, and I love you! I know you’re nervous and don’t know what to do. And I love you so much! I’m with you! I love you. I love you. I love you. Stay there until you relax and really feel something open.
  2. Take a walk, 10 – 20 minutes. Go alone. Let your mind rest, and let it wander.
    * If you are unable to take a walk, don’t let the love stop there! Try 5 – 10 minutes of gentle stretching. Roll your shoulders and neck. Take some deep breaths. Stretch your legs out in front of you if you are able. Stretch your hands and wrists. Keep is simple, easy, and loving. Be loving with your body. *
  3. Let your mind & body rest. Set a timer for 10 – 15 minutes, maybe 20, and rest. Let your attention gently return, again and again, to the space under your nose where your breath passes in and out. Don’t force any thoughts away. Let them come to completion and return your attention to your breath. Notice where your body feels tense, and breathe space into there. Letting go, opening, letting go, opening, relaxing.
  4. Make something simple. Simple creativity can offer great love, presence, and relief. And you don’t have to be good at it! Draw a stick figure of yourself or someone you love. Play half of a song on a guitar. Having fun? Play the rest of the song. Cut your sandwich into fun shapes. Be easy about it; just express yourself.

    Here are some samples from a daily doodle exercise that I do. Following my Morning Pages, I write a visioning page for the day. I next make a simple doodle based on that vision, and then I make a short gratitude list. No matter what space I was in when I started writing, these simple pictures always make me aware of a sweet smile on my face when I finish.


    This one was actually at a restaurant where I went to see a band. I saw crayons and fun ensued.

  5. Go back to the mirror. Thank yourself for the self-loving gestures. Let yourself know how much you’re kicking ass & how great you’re doing.

And you are [doing great]. What a gift. Relax, breathe, look yourself in your own eyes. Self-love is the recognition of infinity.

These exercises may seem dorky, and your mind may tell you they are useless. But if your mind is also telling you mean things about yourself and your life, you might as well infuse it with some kind ideas as well.

And did I mention, IT’S ALL FREE!? It doesn’t cost any money to do any of these things. Even if you want to draw and don’t have a crayon, find a stick and drawn in the dirt. Just honor yourself, and show the precious being you are some love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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April 19 (Teleclass) – Self-Loving through Creativity

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Click here to listen to an interview on New Paradigm Radio where we talk about
all aspects of Creativity & Self Love!

Find this post easily in the sidebar of this page. Look up and to the right!

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BACKGROUND

For years I’ve heard that I should love myself. I heard that I couldn’t love others until I did. I heard that all my problems stemmed from a lack of self-love. But the concept felt foreign and intangible, and the love connection failed. And guess what else? I felt worse for not being able to connect. “I don’t love myself? I must be even less worthy of love than I already thought!”

I’m laughing with empathy now as I’m typing this.

Self-love is a precious and all-inclusive experience.

At the heart of this love is the acceptance of all of our states, thoughts, dreams, fears, worries, cravings, loves . . .

and one of the most immediate doorways to this acceptance is creativity.

In this special workshop, we will use a variety of *simple* (no prior experience or skill necessary!) creative exercises to connect with ourselves, exactly as we are, and tap into the natural love of this moment. It is effortless, fun, and unifying, as we recognize our humanity in others as well as in ourselves.

DETAILS

Sunday, April 19, 2015
12 pm – 2 pm Central
On-line (camera and mic required)
Cost: $45
(or gift a friend and save $15 for two/$25 discount for three)

SALE!!!!!
Cost: $20!!!




NOTE: This class is open to therapists, healers, store clerks, dreamers, partners, singles, parents, siblings, artists, executives, plumbers, postal carriers, and humans of all kinds. NO PRIOR EXPERIENCE OR SKILL REQUIRED.

This is a hands-on, fun, easy, rich therapeutic experience for all involved.

we love ourselves

TAKEAWAYS

– practical and simple tools to use in everyday life
– activities that translate well to art therapy, journaling, and other mental, emotional and overall health support
– art you make in class
– an increased openness, acceptance and affection for yourself (and others), without having to change a thing

You may also experience a surge in your creative expression.

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That’s me!

A bit about me ~
I’m Carin Channing, LCSW,
Rest and Creativity Encourager at The Therapy Booth,
author of the Trust Rest blog,
facilitator of biweekly REST Room calls,
host of the weekly Doodle Booth,
mother to two homemade sock puppets, director of A Carina Original Puppet Factory and
adorer of myself —
and I can’t wait to create with you!

Contact me at thetherapybooth@gmail.com with questions.

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Experiencing Self-Compassion Directly

“I feel jealous!”

(Try just feeling jealous, then.)

“I feel angry.”

(What happens if you just feel angry?)

“I feel so sad!”

(Go ahead and feel so sad.)

“I am elated!”

(Experience elated directly. Feel it from within!)

“I don’t feel anything.”

(How does that feel? Take a moment to experience it as it is.)

“I feel in love and it scares me.”

(Feel it all. Tell it out loud, too.)

“But I feel so ashamed.”

(What does ashamed feel like? What if you turn right toward it instead of away?)

“Mmmmm, I feel compassion for myself.”

(Rest there, dear heart. Rest there.)

Image source: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/importance-of-self-compassion.html

Image source: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/importance-of-self-compassion.html

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